Social Media is “connecting people”
You know it’s true, instead of fulfilling its real purpose – connecting people, social media does exactly the opposite. It disconnects us. At least from personal observation, I can definitely agree with it.
When we join social media we think we’re going to end up with tons of new friends. Our life would be adventurous and buzzing.
Instead, we are in the middle of a vicious circle. All those apps, games and social platforms stealing our free time. We so much want to have a real quality conversation with a person who gets us. The reality is most of the time, all we are left with is lonely hours in front of a screen. We can even start to develop the first signs of this modern disease – social media addiction. Most likely it will lead us to social anxiety and depression at the end.
Here is the thing,
One of the reasons this is causing you so much hassle is because of the pressure we feel when scrolling through the exciting new photos of our social media friends. The feeling of unworthiness creeps in. Out of a sudden, we are spending hours analysing. Comparing our life with the life of others and never feel satisfied. What we see every day is the “perfect” life of others. Travelling, vacations, parties, marriages, babies all the things we want in our life perhaps. It is funny. Instead of being happy for what we see, we end up not being grateful for what we already have. It is due to this constant comparing in our heads. It’s like our focus is more on the things we don’t have at the moment. And at some point, it really starts messing up our mind if we don’t notice what really happens on time.
What we might miss is how innocently we are becoming seekers of attention. And by the numbers of our likes and followers, we determine how happy, likeable and worthy we are.
And it‘s so incredibly easy to start living in this social media (internet, virtual) reality. Therefore, by spending most of your time there to start disconnecting with our loved once. To stop cooking, stop eating, slowly lose interest in our partner and only be interested in what is happening online. We might not notice the change but it happens slowly and steadily.
The Awakening
You’re probably thinking to yourself right now…
“Ok, I get I need to make a change …but how?”
The secret is to understand that love, compassion, empathy, gratitude is our way out if in a gloomy place.
Quality communication and physical connection are essential for us human beings and I believe we will come back to it very soon, with hearts wide open.
Being a victim of the false self – praising attitude by collecting likes and trying to feel worthy this way will not endure in time.
True communication face to face, a smile, a touch, a laugh with friends is what enriches our lives, not the next posy picture on Instagram.
I dream of a world so simple. When we go out we just give our full attention to one another. Where we try to find out more and more interesting things in our partners every day and be grateful for every hour and minute together. A time when we live here and now not taking so many pictures and not polishing and filter them for the social media post. When even losing our pictures from this cool trip to Amsterdam we can still don‘t panic but positively say we’re going to make new memories. When we realise the most important happened there will forever stay with us no matter if we have or haven‘t got proof of it.
What I saw for myself is by giving my full attention, by leaving my phone in my bag, I‘m connecting with people better and have quality conversations. They are bringing me so much positive feelings and experiences.
Try that and I truly believe you will see a huge difference in your life.
I‘m always trying to connect with the person behind the ‘‘Thought wall‘‘. With that pure soul or the way, Syd Banks speaks of it – Pure consciousness. In this human being to human being conversation, the magic happens. And you will find the beauty of having no mask and no filter. You will find yourself being more social out of the virtual reality world.
That’s how simple it can be.
If you don’t believe me, that’s fine too, go and test it for yourself.
What a wonderful world it would be if only we can see.
Thanks for reading,
Speak to you soon,
With love,
Dimmi Valenti