A passionate relationship – honestly, my friends, we all want it, right?
Is there someone on this Earth who wants the powerful desire towards the love of his life to fade away? I seriously doubt it.
Yet, sadly it happens more than we would prefer.
When one day it hits you, that you haven’t been intimate with your partner for more than a week, a month, a year … some intense confusion starts building up in your mind.
You start to wonder what’s happened.
Why don’t I intimately want my partner?
Why doesn’t he approach me?
Where did our passion go?
Why don’t I find him appealing anymore, and his joke hilarious like in the beginning?
We don’t even look into each other’s eyes anymore…
And all these questions torment your soul, day and night…
Should I say something, should I do something or just let it be because maybe it could become even worst?
Is love gone forever?
Then what about all the things we built together? All these years of sacrifice for a better home, better jobs, the kids and so on.
Then what about us? Who are we? Do we even know anymore….
Let’s face it, friends, we’ve been there at least once in our lives.
Also, it is not pleasant at all, it leads to stupid assumptions, cheating, infidelity, suffering and one painful break-up.
Does it have to be that way? What should we do to prevent it or recover from it?
I’ve heard many times:
“Oh c’mon, the passion you have only at the beginning of the relationship and if you are lucky something little will stay for special occasions – like anniversaries”
“It’s just the way it is”.
We just lose interest in one another. We’ve heard the same stories over and over again. We know every inch of our bodies. Nothing new, nothing exciting. Same old, same old.
Furthermore, the fights are now quite often though you know sometimes you’re not even bothered to start a fight. They are boring as well. Levitating over the same issues over and over again.
Boring, exhausting, repetitive….
But why is this happening?…
First reason – laziness
Usually, when we human beings finally have what we want, we tend to cherish and enjoy it not for such a long time and move on to something that we don’t yet have.
The next shiny thing.
Of, course it happens subconsciously. We are not aware of what is happening, we just don’t seem to put any effort into the relationship anymore.
And what for, we already have it, remember? We can now focus on our career or our hobbies and so on.
Consequently, with focusing our energy elsewhere, we don’t even notice how little by little something starts changing.
“My wife seems to not smile so much. She is moody and looks unsatisfied and very easily irritated – Must be PMS” ….
However, it is not.
And I’m not talking here only about women. Gents, I’m completely aware you can be neglected too. So this is not some type of a feminist article…
Second and maybe even more important reason:
Not being present anymore
You see, we can talk a lot about what being present means. It is a long conversation. However, I know deep inside we all have the idea of what it is.
To put it simply. Because as you know, I love simple.
It is when our head is not full of all these thoughts. About work, about tomorrow, about problems…
A peaceful, tranquil mind, able to see and feel every move, colour, smell, the vibration of the moment.
When you live in the present moment you will know, a person can’t be not interesting. The simple reason is that we can’t fully know someone. We might think we do, but we, in reality, we don’t. Every human consciousness is as vast as the universe itself. And it changes from moment to moment – you are not the same, you were years ago. Your perspectives, beliefs, values, priorities are not the same as when you were 16, for example.
So there is so much more to learn about everyone. It is impossible to fully know someone. Plus, we don’t completely know ourselves.
So from all that said so far… What is this secret that can help us change all of this?
Listen carefully, my friend, it has the power to change your life completely…
The relationship will change when you become more and more present
Being there, listening, watching your partner in the eyes when he speaks.
When every time your heart is filled with gratitude, admiration and respect… like seeing him for the first time. Like kissing and touching him for the first time. It always gonna be the best kiss, the best love act … the funniest story and so on.
Appreciating what you have when you still have it is the most important insight you could get.
Being in the moment with your partner is a bliss. Only this beautiful feeling inside like nothing else matters. Nothing from this physical outside world, we call – reality.
Being present will help you see with new eyes. More profoundly. With curiosity. And the best thing it takes only one of the partners to practise presence the relationship will change for the both of you. That I can guarantee…
So, my friend, I hope you saw something in these words. I hope they have spoken to you. If you have “heard” something, you will see the change in your life sooner than you thing.
Believe in what you have learned today and go live the life of your dreams.
More magic to come soon,
Time to go now,
Speak to you very soon,
With love,
Dimmi