Have you felt like something is in your way of having the life you want?
No matter how hard you try, it’s like an invisible force holding you back. Like there is nothing you can do. It’s in your DNA.
Have you given up, accepted that everyone else can make it but not you? You just don’t have that luck or whatever needed to succeed.
That invisible force my friend is called – Insecurities.
How many times you feel passionate about a project or an idea and it feels so good. For awhile. And then, strangely enough, something creeps in. You start feeling insecure. Not capable of.
Doubts
Doubting yourself – “Am I good enough? Am I smart enough? Do I have everything it takes to succeed?”
You start asking friends and family or even strangers for their opinion. Seeking approval. And when you get it you are happy and empowered. However, what happens when you receive a discouraging opinion – “It seems too hard; It is impossible; Nobody ever did this; Why risk the comfort you already have to chase a dream” and so on…
In the end, you feel confused.
Even when you make the decision you still contemplate and worry whether it is the right one or not. And most of the time you never make the first step, never show yourself in front of the world because you feel so insecure. Because you want to save yourself the risk of an embarrassment or disapproval.
Have you been there, my friend?
Did you wish to be brave and courageous enough to jump when the time was right? To just follow your instincts no matter the logical mind. The mind that always tries to protect you and innocently inserting doubtful feelings and fear in your heart.
Like a result, we have the heart and the mind out of synchronicity. Therefore, lots of stupid actions follow. Actions, we often tend to regret in the future.
If you believe in these insecurities inside you, if you act on them, then it is likely for you to screw up even the most beautiful thing.
For example a beautiful young love.
You just met someone who’s awakened the butterflies in your stomach. Who feels the same and seems to want the same as you.
Someone you can talk for hours. Oh, young love….
How unbelievable you are, how magical, how you have the power to uplift people. To show the realms of other dimensions. To make people better, smiley, happy….
Beautiful isn’t it?
However, our impatience, expectations, comparison with previous relationships and deep insecurities start showing up. And it can happen only a couple of weeks in the romance.
There is a saying:
“Too good is no good”- meaning our paradise can be ruined every minute in front of our eyes.
Fear creeps in again, fear of losing the happiness you have just found. Fear of the unknown. Of what might happen. And that you might be the reason. Like the last time…
The last time when you thought and believed it was going to last forever…
What we then do is hold on tight. Demand attention, closeness … we want to be sure he puts us first … “I want to be the one for him” – I have heard more than a thousand times.
In the meanwhile, we squeeze this relationship so tight, we don’t even notice how the beautiful feelings, in the beginning, became disappointments and sadness. As well as the other person wanting to spend more time only by himself.
Why is that?
How do you think?
Let’s see what will come up to the surface…
Oh… we can’t enjoy life anymore because our mind is full of insecure thoughts.
There is no space…
And maybe you already know what I will tell next?
That’s right,…
Insecure thoughts become insecure feelings.
It’s like а no ending vicious cycle.
Ok, but what can we do about it?
You know now why you feel like that but how on earth to change this situation.
The simple answer lies again in the quiet mind. Only from this state of being, we can see something more. Connect to the spiritual side of human life. Hear clearly.
We can be part of the whole.
Probably we could even see that happiness is a state of mind. Not an outside situation. Consequently, we could let go of the neediness and sense the peace of mind.
There is no need to dig and analyse what are these insecure thoughts. Where they are coming from? Most likely from the past. From the mental models, we have picked up from family, society ext. But we will not find anything if we spend more time keeping these thoughts in our heads.
Think about it like a glass full of wine. To fill it with a good wine, first, you need to pour out the one already inside.
Don’t hold on. Don’t make it your story. Open your mind. Let new thoughts, resourceful thoughts fill in the space. Act accordingly.
Find stillness. Peace. Meditate, breathe ….
When you feel insecure all you need is love. The love that is inside of you…
No one can save you but you, my friend.
Be your best friend. Become quiet … and listen, listen to the spiritual wisdom inside of you. It is always there. Universal Mind has always got your back.
And there you will find – that you are enough, you deserve love, happiness, success, the life you want. The only thing that keeps you away from it is the insecure Ego mind.
But you know how to deal with it already….
Now go out there, shine the brightest you can, make good and remember
everything is OK…
Speak to you soon,
With love,
Dimmi